Is it okay to holiday without your kids?
Everyone is different, which means that ultimately, we’re all going to be different kinds of parents, too. Some things that you find okay, may not sit so well with others. The trick is to decide what you’re comfortable with and accept how other parents raise their children.
That wasn’t the case on a recent radio show, where there was a heated debate brewing about whether or not it’s okay to travel without your children. Neither side could comprehend the other’s view on the matter and it made for some pretty spectacular radio.
So I took to the beautyheaven mums, in the attempt to discover what the general view was among women I know and work with…
bh’s Jackie says: Yes, it’s essential! (Jackie has four kids, aged between 11-22)
“Is it OK to travel with your partner and leave your kids at home? Of course it is! In fact it’s more than OK - it is ESSENTIAL for a happy, healthy relationship. I highly recommend couples with children do this at least once a year and preferably twice or three times to make sure you re-connect and remember why you fell in love and decided to have those little treasures in the first place. It is really easy to forget sometimes!”
bh’s Tara says: No, not really (Tara has one daughter, aged two)
“It depends on how long the holiday. A weekend away with no kids? Absolutely! A 10-day holiday to Thailand sans kids? I would totally judge. I figure as a parent you are allowed a bit of time out (two or three days) but other than that I subscribe to the theory that "you brought them into the world, so it's your responsibility to look after them" so if you're going on holiday, then you're ALL going on holiday.
But this is mainly referring to young kids. I figure once they hit their teens, they won't want to go on holiday with you anyway.”
bh’s Di says: Yes! (Di has two children, aged 18-21)
“I think it is A-OK and have done so on a few occasions. It can be annoying because you have quite a lot to organise before you go, like making sure your kids have all they need for school, if they’ll be staying with someone else.
Though there’s an element of planning, I do think it’s worth it in the end for the benefit of your relationship with your partner. Kids think it’s exciting to have a change to their routine too - and presents from mum and dad when they get back from the holiday don’t hurt either.”
bh’s Laura says: No, not yet (Laura has one daughter, aged 10 weeks)
“I think it depends a lot on how old the children are. At the moment I've not been separated from my daughter for longer than three hours and I just cannot imagine being apart from her even overnight.
This is partly necessity, partly because I'd miss her (she is only 10 weeks old though!) I can understand parents of older children wanting a break, but personally I wouldn't want to go away for more than a couple of nights without her because holidays to me are family time and family holidays are some of the most enduring memories I have of my childhood so I wouldn't want her to miss out.”
bh’s Janet says: Yes, with conditions (Janet has one son, aged 11)
“As long as you know the child/children are staying with people they like, I think both the parents and the children enjoy the break from each other!”
bh’s Kym says: yes and no (Kym has two sons, aged 11-17)
“Ideally I’d prefer to go on holidays without my kids - eek!
I'm not sure whether that's politically correct to say but hey, I'm a single mum who works full time and have two boys to look after five days a week. The peace would be well-received and deserved, don't you think?
But on the other hand it is still lovely to go away with my boys, getting away from the day-to-day boring tasks and chilling out together is very special. I'd love to be able to take them overseas and create long-term memories and I feel it's really valuable to introduce them to different cultures - budget permitting!”
What do you think? Would you travel without your kids? Who's comment do you agree with most?